Monday’s Portrait: Portrait of Gratitude
I know I’m a little late for a Thanksgiving post, but tonight our family had an experience that left me feeling profoundly grateful for the gifts we are given each day.
To start off, the week before Thanksgiving, my 3rd grade daughter brought home a poem she wrote and illustrated at school. I loved the poem. Not just because my daughter wrote it and I enjoyed reading her thoughts, but also because the poem was a wonderful exercise in learning how to find gratitude. My daughter’s teacher had the students in her class think of eight things they wanted. After each longed-for wish, the students wrote something they already had that they were grateful for. For example, here is my daughter’s poem:
I wish I had another puppy, but I’m grateful I have one.
I wish nobody would get sick, but I’m grateful I don’t get sick a lot.
I wish I had all the books I wanted to read, but I’m grateful I get to read some.
I wish I never had hard times, but I’m grateful I have friends and family when I do.
I wish I had a job with animals, but I’m grateful I can when I’m older.
I wish I would never grow up, but I’m glad I get to stay little for a while.
I wish the day would last forever, but I’m grateful it lasts 24 hours.
I wish I could do whatever I want, but at the same time I’m grateful that I don’t.
I could add a few of my own: I wish my husband liked 19th century British literature, but I’m grateful he’ll watch Jane Eyre with me anyway. I wish I didn’t have to wash the dirty dishes, but I’m grateful I can feed my family. I wish I had more time to write my book, but I’m grateful for four children who keep me busy and make my life purposeful.
It really is a wonderful exercise – finding what you are grateful for in the moment you are longing for more. Tonight’s experience was all about that. My husband and I took our kids to a special event organized by a dear friend of mine: a concert by children for children. She and her family organize the event each year, inviting friends to come and participate in a night of holiday music. Children perform, sharing their talents, and at the end of the night donations are accepted for the One Heart Bulgaria foundation, which aids orphanages in Bulgaria.
At the beginning of the concert, we were shown a slideshow of orphaned children living in Bulgaria. I found myself drawn toward the children’s dark, quiet eyes as they looked into the camera, inviting me to see the world from their point of view. It allowed me to step away from the long hard stare I fix on the things I think I want most, both for me and for my children, and to appreciate the most basic and important elements of our lives: love, faith, and family; food, health and home. There are so many gifts that have already been given, so many wants that have already been met. And so many opportunities to give instead of receive.